Protect your Future by Studying your Past

The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called “woman,” for she was taken out of man. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.’ Genesis 2:23-24

Those who are ignorant of the past are condemned to repeat it. How true this is. Our marriage was not birthed in a timeless vacuum. It is shocking how little we know about our own family history, let alone the family history of our spouse. We understand that a doctor cannot help us without a full examination and a diagnosis that includes a family medical history. He asks a number of questions and administers several tests before prescribing a remedy. In the spiritual realm, it is the Holy Spirit who is the doctor of our souls. All the best inspirational Bible teaching can do us no good if we have not subjected ourselves to the scrutiny and examination of the Holy Spirit.

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Hope in His Unfailing Love

Psalm 33:18-22: But the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in his unfailing love, to deliver them from death and keep them alive in famine. We wait in hope for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name. May your unfailing love be with us, Lord, even as we put our hope in you.
We put our hope in a lot of things. We hope our car will start each morning. We hope our jobs are secure. We hope our children make wise choices. We hope our marriages don’t fail. It is natural for our hearts to hope–but more often than not, we put our hope in wrong places. We place our hope in things or people that can and often do fail. Even knowing this, we continue to hope in that which can disappoint.
But take heart…there is One in whom we can place our hope that will never fail us. We can firmly and confidently place our hope in the God who loves us. Because his love never fails, it is the only place where we can place our hope and rest securely. Psalm 33 tells us that the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear Him. He carefully watches over those whose hope is placed in his unfailing love. Imagine God looking your way this very moment. He sees you sitting on your couch or at your desk. He sees you kneeling in prayer. He hears your cries for help and is always watching…always at the ready to meet your needs.
He sustains us through times of famine–emotional as well as physical. He helps us when we are in trouble and shields us from the enemy of our souls. He delivers our weary souls and meets our every need. His loving touch heals our broken hearts and causes those same hearts to rejoice.

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The Gift of Healthy Anger – Gary J. Oliver, Th.M., Ph.D.

What do you think of when you hear the word anger? Whenever I ask for a word association to anger the responses are invariably 99% negative. Why do so many couples have a totally negative view of anger? Is all anger bad? Can this unwelcome and potentially destructive emotion be considered a gift rather than a time-bomb?

In over 35 years of doing marriage and family counseling I’ve found that while few couples come for marriage counseling just to deal with the emotion of anger, in well over 3/4ths of the cases one of the key components of a marriage-threatening issue is unhealthy anger. Why is unhealthy anger so powerful?

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Joshua 24:14-15:  Now fear the Lord and serve him with all faithfulness. Throw away the gods your ancestors worshiped beyond the Euphrates River and in Egypt, and serve the Lord. But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day...

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2 Corinthians 5:1-5: For we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands. Meanwhile we groan, longing to be clothed instead with our heavenly dwelling, because when we are...

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Called to the Counterintuitive

James 1:2-6, 12:  Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking...

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