The Marriage Resource was created from the very unique
alliance of our three founding members.
Pastor Jeff Reinke & Robin Reinke
Gary Oliver, Ph.D
Sharon May, Ph.D
Pastor Jeff Reinke, a Marriage and Family Pastor for over 20 years, was the initial driving force behind The Marriage Resource. Looking for ways to better support individuals and couples in making long-term, lasting changes in their lives and marriages, Jeff turned to Gary Oliver Ph.D. (perhaps the top researcher in the country on the topic of marriage) for help in designing a successful model for healing marriages after severe trauma or a major break in trust. Dr. Oliver quickly directed Jeff to Sharon May, Ph.D, another expert in healing marriages with an astounding 83% success rate in helping couples in crisis stay together and heal their marriages. From their combined vision and experience came the birth of The Marriage Resource…a one-of –a-kind resource to help couples in struggling marriages both inside and outside the church.
Jeff Reinke, Co-Founder
Jeff is the founder of The Marriage Resource and pastor of the Marriage & Family Ministry at North Coast Calvary Chapel located in Carlsbad, California. Jeff obtained his BA from the University of Southern California and his MA from Trinity Graduate School of Theology and Azusa Pacific University. His wife Robin is a licensed marriage and family counselor with a practice in north county San Diego. Together they have two grown children and many years of hands-on experience in helping strengthen and restore marriages in the Christian community.
Jeff is the Chief Executive Officer of Viewspark, LLC., a fundraising technology platform helping nonprofits raise money for their causes. With 20+ years in the nonprofit fundraising space, Jeff has worked on some of the largest fundraising campaigns in the United States. He is a Certified Fundraising Executive (CFRE) and has senior leadership experience in both direct response and major gift fundraising. Jeff and his wife Jenn are active participants in The Marriage Resource curriculum and are grateful for what they have learned to help strengthen their marriage. They have been married over 10 years and enjoy spending time with their two children, Alexa Joy and Brett .
Tom is an east coast Navy brat, hailing mainly from North Carolina. He came to Southern California in 1999 to marry his wife Judy. They have an amazing “crew” of 4 daughters, 1 son-in-law, 4 granddaughters and a wonderful Golden Retriever named Molly. After moving to Carlsbad in 2003, Tom and Judy rooted themselves at North Coast Calvary Chapel where they lead a home group for 7 years. Jesus then called them into the marriage ministry where they continue to be dedicated to growing and strengthening marriages through The Marriage Resource. About 4 years ago they left NCCC to help Rancho del Rey start a Marriage ministry program.
Rob Reynolds, Esq.
Rob is an attorney whose practice focuses on general civil litigation and trial work. He is allied with the Alliance Defending Freedom and a member of the American Board of Trial Advocates. He obtained his B.S in economics, Phi Beta Kappa, from the University of Redlands, and his law degree (J.D.),cum laude, from Trinity International University School of Law. He was admitted to the California Bar in December of 1990. He currently manages his own practice in San Diego County while continuing to litigate cases in neighboring cities. He and his wife Patrice have been married for over 20 years and have four children.
Paul and his wife Konny have been married for over 40 years and have four children and two grandchildren. Paul’s career in the nonprofit sector has spanned nearly 41 years, most of which has been in the international humanitarian arena where he has traveled to more than 100 countries. He has worked for organizations such as World Vision, Operation Blessing, MAP International and Project Concern International. An experienced consultant and executive coach, Mr. Thompson is currently the Executive Director of the Better World Trust, a philanthropic organization that provides grant making and social impact investments focused on the sectors of child development, health & environment and economic development both locally and globally.
Melissa and husband Matt have been together since high school. They have two spirited boys that keep their lives full of adventure. Melissa holds dual licensure as a Marriage and Family Therapist and Professional Clinical Counselor. She received her BA from Iowa State University and her MA from Hardin-Simmons University. Currently, Melissa is the director of an outpatient mental health clinic for adults with severe and persistent mental illness in the San Diego area that has been recognized as Mental Health Program of the Year by the County of San Diego. Melissa is certified in non-profit management and has been working in the non-profit sector for the past 12 years.
Maria Teran-Cruz is a fourth grade teacher at Jefferson Elementary in Carlsbad. After 21 years of teaching, she was named the 2015 Teacher of the Year for her school, the Carlsbad Unified School District and San Diego County. Maria has been married to David for 17 years and they have two children. She has been a co-facilitator for WomenSkills and MarriageSkills classes and along with her husband is a pre-marital mentor. Maria is passionate about teaching the principles and resources available through this ministry so couples can fully experience the fullness and joy in their marriages through God’s grace.
Ryan is a passionate ministry leader and business manager in North County San Diego. He and his wife Ali have been married since 2002, a marriage that experiences the daily saving grace of Jesus. They have 3 young boys, love to be outdoors, and are passionate about using their personal story to reveal the redemptive power of God. The Ash’s lead marriage ministry at New Community Church of Vista and have hosted marriage focused small groups for more than 10 years. They are certified Men’s/Women’s Skills facilitators and dedicated advocates for Restoration Therapy. The Ash’s are committed to living into the hope that comes from Christ-focused relationships in the context of community.
Advisory Board Members
As Vice President of Four Seasons Hotels and Resorts, Paul is responsible for developing a full complement of residential products for mixed-use developments. He provides strategic planning advice at the early stages of development and is an expert in sales and marketing with over a decade of Four Seasons experience worldwide.
Paul’s true passion is serving in ministry and his focus is on developing organizational structure and transferring key business principles to church and para-church organizations in an effort to increase the effectiveness and efficiency of Kingdom work.
Paul has a Bachelor’s Degree from Arizona State University and an MBA from the University of Southern California, Marshall School of Business.
Gary Oliver, Ph.D
Gary is a husband, father, university and seminary professor, psychologist, author, Executive Director of the Center for Relationship Enrichment and Professor of Psychology and Practical Theology at John Brown University in Siloam Springs, Arkansas.
He received his B.A. from Biola University, a M.Div. from Talbot Theological Seminary, a Th.M. from Fuller Theological Seminary, and an M.A. and a Ph.D. in psychology from the University of Nebraska in Lincoln. He is a licensed clinical psychologist and has over 30 years experience in individual, premarital, marital and family counseling. Serving as a pioneer in the field of marriage enrichment, Dr. Oliver currently teaches, trains and consults with church and para-church ministries, community organizations, corporations, seminaries, Christian colleges and universities both nationally and internationally. Gary and his wife Linda live in Siloam Springs, Arkansas.
Terry Hargrave, Ph.D and Sharon Hargrave, MFT
Terry and Sharon Hargrave travel and speak nationally and internationally on marriage, forgiveness, family dynamics and intergenerational issues. Terry is a professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Theological Seminary and is nationally recognized for his pioneering work with intergenerational families and the development of the Restoration Therapy model. Dr. Hargrave has authored numerous professional articles and eleven books.
Sharon is the Executive Director of the Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine University. She is also the founder of MarriageStrong, a program for leadership marriages, and is an affiliate faculty member in the Marriage and Family Therapy department at Fuller Theological Seminary. Before moving to California, Sharon was in private practice for over 18 years. She specializes in working with couples and intergenerational issues.
Terry and Sharon are highly sought after speakers at retreats, conferences, and church, university, and community events. They have been married since 1979 and have two adult married children. They currently reside in Pasadena, CA.
Dr. Archibald Hart, Hart Institute
Dr. Hart, Senior Professor of Psychology and Dean Emeritus, is well known for his ministry to churches through psychological training, education, and consultation. A former dean of the School of Psychology at Fuller Theological Seminary, he is now retired from full-time teaching, but continues to teach two courses in psychology and in his physiological lab research continues to examine issues of stress, depression and anxiety.
He has taught for years in the Doctor of Ministry program at the seminary, in addition to his teaching and mentoring responsibilities in the School of Psychology. Fuller has established two annual scholarships for psychology students as a part of Hart’s legacy. He is board certified in psychopharmacology and was honored by the American Association of Christian Counselors with their “Caregivers Award” in 1997. Dr. Hart has also published 25 books.
Dr. Hart and his wife Kathleen live in California. They have three daughters, four grandsons, three granddaughters and a delightful dog, Andy.