“No other single force is causing as much measurable hardship in this country as the collapse of marriage.”
– Time Magazine, July 13, 2009
“The reasons for the great number of unsuccessful marriages and broken families are many and often complex… but there is help and there is hope” Let us better equip you with the tools that will help you to experience more joy, more understanding, and more excitement in all of your relationships…
MONTHLY SPIRITUAL PERSPECTIVE
Let’s be honest—we were all born into a family that was broken, raised in an environment that was less than perfect and learned survival skills that keep us from receiving the love we need. One of the major obstacles to a healthy marriage, even after being married 20 years, is that many spouses are still as emotionally bound to their families of origin as they are to their spouses and they don’t even know it. This is an indisputable law of human nature that cannot be broken except by the grace of God. God says clearly that the sins (iniquities) of those who have gone before us are passed down to our children, grandchildren and even our great grandchildren. Identifying and addressing these “iniquities,” or family patterns of relating, is not about inserting guilt. Rather it’s about dealing with what took place and taking a truthful look at how our past shaped our present marriage relationship. Taking the journey through these specific issues is not easy and requires a lot of time and patience. However; to do so helps us deal with and conquer fears, frees us to follow dreams and aspirations, helps us attain peace and helps shape the success of future intimate relationships. Let us, with God’s help, make a commitment to break the sinful generational attitudes and behaviors that have kept us stuck. Despite turmoil and unresolved hurt in relationships, there are three points of hope for all of us: There is hope for the healing of past hurts and pains. There is courage for the faint hearted to deal with those past hurts. There is wisdom…read more
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Psalm 33:18-22: But the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in his unfailing love, to deliver them from death and keep them alive in famine. We wait in hope for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name. May your unfailing love be with us, Lord, even as we put our hope in you.
We put our hope in a lot of things. We hope our car will start each morning. We hope our jobs are secure. We hope our children make wise choices. We hope our marriages don’t fail. It is natural for our hearts to hope–but more often than not, we put our hope in wrong places. We place our hope in things or people that can and often do fail. Even knowing this, we continue to hope in that which can disappoint.
But take heart…there is One in whom we can place our hope that will never fail us. We can firmly and confidently place our hope in the God who loves us. Because his love never fails, it is the only place where we can place our hope and rest securely. Psalm 33 tells us that the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear Him. He carefully watches over those whose hope is placed in his unfailing love. Imagine God looking your way this very moment. He sees you sitting on your couch or at your desk. He sees you kneeling in prayer. He hears your cries for help and is always watching…always at the ready to meet your needs.
He sustains us through times of famine–emotional as well as physical. He helps us when we are in trouble and shields us from the enemy of our souls. He delivers our weary souls and meets our every need. His loving touch heals our broken hearts and causes those same hearts to rejoice.
I’ve had leadership training in the military. I have a Masters Degree in Global Leadership. I’ve had leadership training for battle and in business but these skills don’t successfully translate as Leadership in the home. You can’t lead in the home the way you lead in battle or business. If you try, it leads to breakdown. In the home, you need to lead from the heart. It wasn’t until I made an investment in my marriage by taking MenSkills that I realized that real leadership is found in serving my family.
– Jerry, MenSkils Graduate
I was about to file divorce paperwork. I had no hope left and I crying out to God for an answer to a failed marriage, then came the MarriageSkills Workshop. We came discouraged and lost and now we are leaving as leaders to pass this on to other couples. Every couple needs to participate the MarriageSkills adventure.
I came in a lot of pain and questioning if my husband could ever love me. I learned so much about what my truth is and why I’ve been stuck and I now have the tools to have a marriage that pursues peace. I am leaving here with a new creation marriage.
Our marriage was dead and now it is ALIVE! We are living out of God’s love for us rather than demanding love from one another!
Attending a seminar, workshop or retreat with TMR will be a life transforming experience that will propel your personal walk with the Lord and your marriage relationship to a new level of fullfillment and fruitfulness. You will be able to immediately encorporate the scriptural truths and apply what you are receiving so that your marriage will be enriched in ways you thought were impossible. You will experience God’s love and refreshing. You will discover areas that must change, and it may even be painful, but you will also laugh out loud as you see great hope for the future. For us, investing in our marriage by attending the retreats has been like a drink of cool water. Something amazing happens when you make a committment in time away, in finances, in truly connecting with eachother and with others and sincerely desire to receive and grow. We always receive so much from the excellent speakers and teaching, but also from praying and sharing with other couples and just enjoying being together away from normal life. We have learned much about how to love eachother well and we are experiencing a unity in our marriage that is affecting our family and others around us.Matt & Amy Stoehr